Are you your true Valentine?

Valentine’s Day is around the corner! Once again lets gear up to celebrate the romance in our lives!

What grand surprises your partner is planning for you?

What’s on your list this time- Cards, teddy bears, chocolates, a watch, a car, jewelry? Or is it a
holiday in Hawaii?

What have you been expecting?

Well whatever it is, if you get it, would you be happy?

Wow! Doesn’t that sound heavy already!

Ever wondered, if gifts have become a prescription for love… so many of us have been dragging our relationships and pretending that the exchange of presents on festivities will validate and seal the love over and over again!

Do you even enjoy that anymore? Or has it just become a duty?

How much effort does one have to make to show that they love you?

Oh wait! Before your brain starts pondering, let me shoot a better question at you… do you love you?

Have you ever been your true valentine? Wonder what that looks like?

Here are 5 tips… and these are only for you:

1. Be aware of what you require. Honor yourself, your body! Get on the floor to dance, if your body desires to move without sulking about not having anyone to dance with. Your energy is inviting, STOP looking for commitment from outside, commit to your life! See who you be or not be in your highest and lowest times, acknowledge and hold yourself gently in all those times like you would do for your dear ones.
   
   
2. Would you, for once, just look at yourself for who you really are, and not for what needs to be fixed in you? Trust that you have got this! Think of all the spaces that you have been to, flowers that you have touched, the hug that you gave to someone and it melted them, work opportunities being offered to you, the music you introduced your friends to, times when
   you cracked a joke and everyone in the room laughed openly. This is your moment of acknowledgment! ACKNOWLEDGE that you created all of it and TRUST in yourself that, similarly, you can create anything that you truly desire.
   
   
3. Its time you let go of that ideal image of yourself, which your inner critique keeps reminding you of. Be the child-like energy that never gets caught up in contemplating and reflecting on what they chose or said or did. What’s done is done; will you now STOP choosing your future based on your past? Choose what excites you, choose again and choose again with no
   judgments… anything and everything that brings you true joy of living, and may be that would be your true kind of ROMANCE!
   
   
4. You think you have been hiding the best of you from the world; well I am here to spill the beans! In this intensive process, you have actually been hiding the true version of you from yourself! STOP hiding, STOP protecting yourself! Risk is worth it, safety is not. Vulnerability is the ultimate potency… being vulnerable in your own world makes you more aware and present. Will you, at all times be there exactly the way you are, without pretending, without covering, without compensating… and look out for the magic it brings?
   
   
5. Start your day by being grateful to yourself; to your body, after all it’s a wonderland ;). Allow yourself to come out of the loop of seeing only the things that have gone wrong because of you! Look for what’s right about you? Look at what you are grateful for about yourself and when you operate from that space is when the love for yourself would seem to come alive
   naturally.

And the good news is… if you follow these tips, people who treat you from the same nurturing space, will start showing up! Are you ready to be that special one for you, while you also attract a partner or open new possibilities for already existing partner, to contribute to your life?

How about, each day being the Valentine’s Day!